Great news, I wanted to give closure to this issue and help anyone else that might be stuck(haha I can laugh about it now) in the same situation. It turns out my retract solenoid was stuck, so that when it went to retract, the pressure was equalized, thus no movement. I woke up in the am ready for some MacGyver work, getting under the slide and looking for what was stuck under it like carpet or the plastic runners, etc, but after watching James's videos on a slide removal it sparked an idea. His RV repair videos are the absolute best, I've watched him take apart and rebuild all kinds of stuff, and i'm extremely grateful that his stuff is out there.
Here is part 2 of that series, but give a watch to any of his vids, he is an excellent resource!
Here is his YT channel
https://www.youtube.com/@AZExpert
Check him out!
Here is the manual from HWH with the images of the solenoids. Mine was as it appears on here, the lower one was retract, upper extend.
https://hwhcorp.com/mp349490.pdf