Was your first trip 500 miles? I'm wondering what made you think to check your pads so soon. Was it pure luck with scheduled maintenance?
When you setup the brake controller, you should have done some experiments to figure out what gain setting you should be using. If you haven't done this, just do some searching and you'll find good youtube videos that go through the process. Ideally find one for your brand of controller to make it even easier. If your trailer brakes aren't working, I think you found your answer.
A Micro Minnie is a lot of trailer for a BMW x5. You may also want to consider weighing on a CAT scale. There are good videos that show that process as well, and it only costs $12 or so. There is an active post over in the travel trailer forum right now that shows the process and how to interpret the results:
https://www.winnieowners.com/forums/...ht-364432.html
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2019 Micro Minnie 2108DS with
upgrades and mods here
2020 Toyota Land Cruiser, RedArc TowPro-Elite, Andersen 3380 WDH